13 days and counting

It is just December 12th and I am already hating Christmas. The stores are draped with cheap tinsel and their PA systems ooze the syrupy pap of bad Christmas music. I am not sure if I can last another 13 days without screaming. There are times when I sympathize with my fellow non-Christian Canadians and their very occasional wishes that the Christmas celebrations were less invasive into their lives. While I can perhaps tolerate the Wal-marts, Targets and even Canadian Tire Stores (only because I never go to any of them) needing to dress up their stores to entice shoppers to buy items that are not needed, I am not as sure as to why Shopper's Drugs (a place I seem to be at far too often getting prescriptions) or the grocery store need to inflict upon me their pseudo pagan rituals. Can you tell that I am not happy with the season?

Last week CBC ran, on its news service a brief article as to "5 reasons to cut your own Christmas tree". One of the reasons had to do with spending more time with one’s family. It seems bizarre to live in a world where we use yearly celebrations to find reasons to spend time with family - as if the fact that they are family is insufficient reason within itself. We shouldn't need excuses to be with our kids or grandkids - we should do it because of that special connection we share. In fact I suspect that the additional pressure to visit family and friends, to try to re-establish those connections that have weaken over the preceding months is exhausting and perhaps even non-productive. While we all have friends for whom seeing once in a long while, with the occasional contact through social media, is sufficient, it is not for family. We need to create a world that in spite of the complexities of our personal and collective lives - we make time for those who are important. No that is wrong - we should not just make time for those people - they need to be our priority. All of the research that I have read and done with seniors suggests very clearly that the more social connections that we maintain with people who are important - the longer, healthier and happier our lives will be.

Perhaps we need to figure out how everyone (including those who work in stores), not just teachers get more time off at Christmas so that it is less hectic for all.

It may be because I am going through another career change that hopefully will allow me to spend more time with my kids and grandkids - but I think I have always been aware of the need to stay connected with those people. Forget about the presents, and the tinsel, the sappy music and the repeated again and again "classic" Christmas movies - just promise to visit them more often.